Relational & Psychodynamic Therapy in California
Ben Heilveil, MA, LMFT
Psychotherapy for Adults and Couples in California
I work with adults, couples, families and teenagers who are trying to understand the patterns, conflicts, and relationships that have become difficult to move through on their own.
Many of my clients are creative professionals, people in film, television, and the arts, men navigating midlife, and couples trying to understand what has happened between them.
My practice is based in Ojai, with telehealth throughout California and limited in-person work.
How I Work
I offer depth-oriented, relational psychotherapy for thoughtful adults across California. My practice is based in Ojai, and I work with many clients in Los Angeles via telehealth. My work is relational and psychodynamic, informed by psychoanalytic thinking, attention to the relational field, and a tolerance for uncertainty rather than quick solutions. My background in liberatory frameworks means that I pay attention to how race, class, culture, and systemic inequity shape inner life and relational experience, often in ways that have gone unnamed in the therapy room.
What is Psychodynamic Therapy?
Most of us are well-trained in the production of answers. Therapy, done seriously, asks for something different. We work with what is unconscious, recurring, and hard to name. I won't collude with your harshest self-assessments, and I won't tell you what you want to hear. What I can offer is a relationship that doesn't require you to perform, and that holds steady through difficulty.
I am attentive to what doesn't work, what gets ignored, defended against, or exiled. Our job is to invite that shit back in, with as much patience and care as it takes. I try to be a trickster. I hold people accountable to their inner life without harshness. I'll only ever ask you to do what you can actually do, even if barely.
I'm curious about the discomfort of inauthentic performance, and about the artistry and soul that become possible when that performance starts to loosen.
We create something together over time: a shared language, a way of paying attention, a space where what is usually unconscious or unspoken can become visible. That requires genuine encounter — honesty on both sides, a willingness to sit with what's uncomfortable, and enough trust to keep going when the path isn't clear.
Who I Work With
I work with adults experiencing burnout, anxiety, chronic stress, or a sense of dissatisfaction that persists despite insight or success. I work with thoughtful, creative, over-functioning adults who look capable on the outside but feel internally strained, restless, or disconnected from themselves. Many of the people who come to see me are successful in their work and relationships, yet sense that something essential is missing, muted, or under pressure beneath the surface.
I've been doing this work for fifteen years, in community mental health and in private practice. I trained at Pacifica Graduate Institute. I work with adults, adolescents, and couples across California via telehealth, with limited in-person sessions in Ojai.
I begin with a 30-minute consultation call at no charge, so we can talk about whether we are a good fit.
FAQs
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Individual & Couples Sessions: $200
Family sessions: $250
I offer weekly and twice-weekly sessions.
Please contact for sliding scale or pro-bono work.
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I work on a private-pay basis. You pay me directly for sessions, and I provide a monthly superbill—a detailed receipt you can submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement.
If your plan includes out-of-network mental health benefits, it may reimburse part of the cost. Your reimbursement depends on your plan, deductible, and the amount your insurer recognizes for each session.
You can use Thrizer to check your benefits and get an estimate:
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You’ll enter your insurance information directly with Thrizer. Estimates are not a guarantee of coverage or reimbursement.
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Before we begin working together I offer a free 30-minute phone consultation. This isn't an intake — it's a chance to talk briefly about what's bringing you in, ask any questions you have, and get a sense of whether working together feels like a reasonable fit. I'll be straightforward with you if I think someone else might serve you better!
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I see individuals, couples, and families. A significant portion of my practice is made up of people who work in film, television, and the arts in Los Angeles. I work primarily via telehealth across California, with a limited in-person practice in Ojai, where I live. I co-founded California Woodland Institute with my wife Ashley, which offers equine-assisted therapy and ranch-based clinical work in Upper Ojai. In addition to seeing clients, I also teach, consult, and supervise.
